I was just listening to Bon Iver’s Skinny Love and I wondered how did this term skinny love came about, so I did a little poking around the world web web and this is what I found:
- Bon Iver’s Skinny Love is basically about how a love turned sour.
- On that related note, skinny love, according to Justin Vernon, is a kind of love that doesn’t have a chance because it’s not nourished.
- And finally, skinny love, according to urbandictionary.com, is when two people have feelings for each other but are too shy to admit it, but they show it.
I think I understand the pain of skinny love, on all 3 counts defined above.
It is like having the life sucked out of you, and you constantly feel this hollow, heart-wrenching feeling at the pit of your core. You don’t know what to think, or what to feel most of the time. You want your love to survive so badly, just thinking about it feels like having the oxygen sucked out of your surroundings. You don’t know what’s wrong, and no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to make it pass that invisible barrier. You can’t fix it.
Then, there’s the kind of love that is too skinny to survive. You know it’s there, but you know that chances of it happening is slimmer than a strand of hair. You’re happy with it at the moment, because it makes you smile knowing it and you look forward to it everyday. It’s like you’re threading on thin ice, one wrong step and it will give way. Deep down inside, you hope that someday this skinny love would be given a chance to grow but until then, you’re contented.
You don’t have to spell it out, you know that it’s there because you can feel it, you can see it. You’re not sure if it’s real, or if it can last, but you know it’s there. There’s no need for labels, or explicit displays of love. You can tell by the little fights, and the things he says to you. The way he manages to make you feel like you’re the only one for him and all the times he made you smile without even trying hard. Despite all of that, it’s still skinny love because of several factors. All you hope for is someday.
You just really need to be in a position where you can change it, and make it better. Someday, someday indeed.
Come on skinny love, just last the year.