Dear fellow feminists (and men who hate on feminist movements)
I honestly think that you should loosen your grip on songs that “hint at men’s degradation of women and our rights”. Or how you should be paid the same as the men you are working with, when you are already earning more money than some men.
I totally understand where these claims and grievances are coming from. I am not telling you to completely ignore these wrongs. I’m simply asking you to weigh your vehement hostilities according to their importance.
In my humble opinion, I think that we have forgotten why and how the feminist movements started, or why feminism came into being at all. It was due to more austere problems such as reproductive rights, domestic violence, maternity leave, equal pay, women’s suffrage, sexual harassment, and sexual violence. Forgive me if I jumped to conclusions, but after reading my previous sentence, I’m sure that equal pay stuck out like a sore thumb. You must understand that equal pay is only a valid argument if your median wage is lower than the median wage for men in your country.
To be brutally honest, I think that you are nit-picking on frivolous issues just to prove that women have a place in society. It is exactly because of ill-considered problems like these that most men, and even some women are against feminism. These whimsical complaints are tarnishing the good intentions of the feminism movements that dates back to the 19th century.
If you had absolutely no idea, the grim problems that sparked the feminist movements in the late 19th century still exist now.
We should be focusing on abolishing things like India’s dowry deaths. Women in India are dying because of the men and their families’ greed for dowries. Contrary to popular beliefs, barbaric acts like setting brides on fire, or drowning them are actually still on the rise. One would think that 2013 would have seen better days for Indian women, but no. It is my regret to inform you that greed exceeds morality and this will not stop if we don’t make it stop. So if you think your thousand dollar pay rise is more important, think again.
If you’ve thought about the importance of your thousand dollar pay rise argument and still think that it is more imperative than India’s tragic dowry tradition, then read on. China’s one child policy deaths have led to millions of deaths of female offsprings. Fetuses are being terminated because of its gender. China’s tradition of having sons to carry on the bloodline of the family runs deeper than ethics and righteousness. If songs about degrading women are more grave than the deaths of unborn children, then I sincerely have nothing more to say to you.
You wouldn’t believe what other audacious acts of violence against women are taking place all over the world. India and China are merely the tip of the ice berg.
To all the men who are reading this, you must understand what the feminist movement really is and what it really stands for. I apologize for the facetious feminist claims that my fellow female counterparts have made. I hope you would change your stance on feminism after reading this letter. I hope that instead of hating on the movement for its flippant demands, you would support it for its de facto causes.
We should be educating ignorant women about things like how we should be treated equally and with respect even though we live in a largely patriarchal society. We should be calling out all the atrocities that society or men are encouraging, whether or not it is passive or aggressive acts of violence. We should not tolerate these heinous acts of abuse just because our traditions dictate it.
I say we because believe it or not, men and women cannot survive without one or the other, and whether you like it or not, this is how law of nature is.